3 Ways To Find Peace, No Matter What Life Throws You

Looking around, you’ll see that there are many obstacles and things that might be upsetting. The same is true for each of us individually. Every emotion imaginable is there in life; at one point, we’re flying high, and at another, we’re writhing in pain, trying to make sense of what transpired. While most of us are more than capable of handling pleasant times (please, more of that!), we could all use some assistance and encouragement when bad times roll along.

Here are three things that have helped me find serenity in the past, whether it was after a breakup, after losing a job, after witnessing a loved one struggle, or when I just couldn’t find joy in anything.

No. 1: Be receptive to receiving serenity.

Defying reality serves no purpose. The wider the gap between our idealized vision of “how things should be” and the actual situation, the more pain we experience. Truthfully, reality will not conform to your desires, and in fact, you will only intensify the suffering you already feel by resisting your experiences. The best way to achieve peace in the midst of sadness is to accept things as they are and give yourself permission to feel every emotion associated with your situation.

From a cultural perspective, we learn to bury and suppress our emotions, which really makes us sick. Sitting atop an active volcano will not provide you with a comfortable experience. Both anger and sadness, as devastating as they may be at times, will not ultimately take your life. But repressing such emotions would just make you more anxious and separate your rational thinking from your gut instincts. Developing an atmosphere of self-compassion is a process that begins with letting yourself lean into difficult emotions to get insight into who you are. This is the way we calm down when our emotions get the best of us.

No. 2: Have faith in your method

It is alright if certain things will always baffle you and some events will never be added to your thankfulness journal. It is not necessary to feel gratitude for every single event that has ever happened to you or is happening to you right now. Having said that, I’m ready to wager that when you reflect on your life’s events, you will realize that the moments of your most trying times were also the catalyst for the most personal growth. We don’t have a say in the lessons we learn; I know I would happily trade some of my life’s experiences for a different path.

Our response to whatever is presented to us is something we can control. We have the choice to let our heartbreaks reveal our true selves or they might make us stronger and more insular. It feels much better to open. Have faith that good may come from bad, and that you’ll be able to help others around you with more empathy as a result.

No. 3: Don’t rush anything

Some major changes are occurring in the life of a friend of mine. She is a single parent with three children. During our recent conversation, she mentioned, “I simply need to figure out my next move, and then I will be able to relax.” Then we both burst out laughing, since it’s obvious that the best course of action is to take a deep breath, relax, and plan our next move. Adapting to new circumstances isn’t always a picnic, though.

Another friend of mine lost her mother a year ago and continues to suffer daily from the anguish of that loss. Friends of hers have advised her to talk to someone and that she should have “moved on” more by now. Therapy and life-coaching are both fantastic options, in my opinion, but there is no set schedule for dealing with loss and sorrow.

Being in one location while longing to go somewhere else is one way to define stress. As a reminder of their own frailty, some people experience extreme discomfort when they are in the presence of mourning. As tragic as it may seem, neither ourselves nor the people we care about have control over the passage of time. The sudden loss of a person can be extremely upsetting, and the degree of love you had for that person and the way in which they left you can make it even worse.

Do not feel pressured to complete anything quickly. Friends who feel they need you to do that are likely not the ones who will be there to rock you in your nineties. Do not rush; instead, be kind with yourself and your emotions. Although I do not subscribe to the belief that “time heals all wounds,” I do think that there comes a point when we are able to process our loss and grief to a point where we can concentrate on being grateful for the profound love we had and the wonderful memories we have.

I am really enthusiastic about hypnotherapy because it empowers us to accept ourselves unconditionally and confront life head-on, regardless of the challenges we may face (and who among us doesn’t?). No one would ever claim that life is easy, yet it is full of amazing and fascinating things. The finest stuff I’ve ever encountered is equipping people to be vulnerable when they feel like hiding, to know themselves, and to discover and express their unique talents.

Please let me be there for you if you need assistance or if you need someone to lean on while you’re going through a tough time. We can face reality as a team.

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