Why Hypnosis works for me and not you.
Are you frustrated why hypnosis hasn’t worked for you like it has others? With all the made up rules for hypnosis to work, you might wonder if you’re a candidate. I’ve heard people who have learning disabilities and mental illnesses cannot be hypnotized.
Other people have actually told me they must be too intelligent because hypnosis hasn’t worked at all for them.
Don’t worry, we’ve all had to learn to let go of other peoples’ rules. One thing I’ve learned is that pretty much everyone is hypnotizable, if you know who your are and really want to be hypnotized.
For some, hypnosis might take longer just as other things do. This could be a real limitation or, more likely, a self-limiting belief.
If you’re struggling to get hypnosis to work for you, here are some tips that will help.
Tip #1: The induction that is chosen might not be right for you.
Are you right brained or left brained? Are you intellectual (can’t stop thinking) or are you creative?
When I interview my clients, I find out which side of the brain they tend to work with more by asking questions such as:
- What do you do for a living?
- What did you get your degree in?
- What subjects in school did you excel in?
I’ll also look to see which hand they favor when filling out paperwork. Which side of the face is a slightly higher. (Yes, that is a sign almost everyone has.)
Left brained people are going to work better with what hypnotists call, confusional techniques. Since they are all over what the hypnotist is saying, we have to use words and phrases that will not have a lot of emotional meaning, choppy phrasing and lots of numbers.
Right brained people love journeys within a daydream with use of all of the senses. They might also be a person whose mind is thinking of other things which makes it even easier because they’re already daydreaming.
But, if you’re attempting to hypnotize yourself, thinking of other things definitely will interrupt you.
Personally, I tend to work my right brain a little more. That’s why a lot of my videos and audios on YouTube and my website are a bit more right brained. But I like to mix it up and use phrasing for both of these areas.
Tip #2: Are you comfortable being hypnotized in a group or not?
If you have worked with hypnosis in a group setting, you might have been very disappointed. Group hypnosis is a good option for the people who can’t afford a private session. However, you generally get what you pay for in these cases.
One of my mentors, the late Gerald Kein, surveyed hypnotists across the country (I’m not sure how many years ago) and asked them what they thought their success rate was with group hypnosis, if they used it. He tallied the responses and it turned out that group hypnosis was only about 17% successful.
That’s why I don’t do group hypnosis. I care about my business and the people who come to see me. When you work with me, everything is personalized to you and you alone. You are not a can of beans where the one can is exactly like all the other cans.
I supported another hypnotherapist by going to one of her group session on quitting smoking years ago. She actually did a really good job. However, 1/3 of the way through the hypnotic part, the person behind me had a coughing fit. I knew being hypnotized was NOT going to happen for me that day.
Tip #3: The myth that not everyone can be hypnotized is a hypnotic suggestion which you don’t need to subscribe to.
My job is to de-hypnotize you from your belief systems that don’t serve your best self. And the above myth is just that.
I, too, used to believe that people with learning disabilities couldn’t be hypnotized… until I proved it wrong. I realized some people take longer with learning and others don’t, so it might take longer for a person to notice significant results. You just have to keep at it, That’s why I will be recording your session so that you can listen in-between our meetings.
People with mental illness can be hypnotized. Hypnosis uses the subconscious mind which is the same mind that uses imagination. Some mental illnesses, like schizophrenia, probably shouldn’t be hypnotized as they overwork their imaginations. However, I worked with two different schizophrenic individuals to help them quit smoking. It worked!
(I require a medical authorization to do so though.)
People who have uncontrolled bi-polar disorder, also, shouldn’t be hypnotized as they can become confused in their own way. However, there are a good number of my clients who are bi-polar. As long as the disorder is under control with medication, they do fine.
Tip # 4: You’re impatient.
In hypnosis, patience is still a virtue. Although as a professional hypnotherapist, I get fast results, it doesn’t mean that we can do everything in one session. What I do mean is that I get faster results than talk therapies. Whereas, a person might go to a psychotherapist every week for two years, they would come to me for 6 to 8 session over the course of 2 to 2 ½ months.
If you’re working with an audio of hypnosis, it might not work after the first couple of listens. You might have to do it daily for a couple of months to notice something significant. Although some changes occur faster than others, you might just need a bit more time.
Many of you have probably seen a stage show, or even been part of one. They are fun, aren’t they?
Stage hypnosis is fast! We all like fast! I know I do. However, hopping around the stage thinking your Britney Spears will never be like quitting smoking or getting over the fear of flying. Stage hypnosis is it’s own thing. Hypnotherapy works with the emotions that are driving a habit or an addiction.
Tip #5: There are actually 2 parts to hypnotherapy.
All habits have emotional drivers and its interesting to me (maybe not you) that you won’t be able to pick them out – at least not all of them.
That’s the trick of the subconscious mind. It has the ability to bury the originating emotions behind other emotions so that you can’t get to it by yourself. It’s just a safety measure that your mind has.
It might take a professional, like me, to unhook the underlying emotional driver so that you can actually make the change you want.
It’s true, when I want to work on something, I have someone else help me, too.
Tip #6: Your beliefs are limited to hypnosis being a trance state
There’s been much discussion among hypnotherapist for decades about what hypnosis really is. If hypnosis is helping you shift belief systems, then most everything that does that can be considered hypnosis.
I practice Neuro-Linguistic Programming with hypnotherapy. Most NLP professionals are required to take basic hypnosis training before they can become certified. Many hypnotherapists use it and it is considered “waking hypnosis.” It doesn’t require a trance state. So when you’re coming in to see me, I’m already strategizing as to how to get you to shift belief systems within our conversation.
You already get hypnotized by:
- Car Salespeople
- Parents (especially when you’re very young)
You can help yourself shift your own belief systems by questioning the message of the medical professionals, news reporters, the books you read and other information that is attempting to educate you the they want you to believe.
Remember, doctors used to prescribe cigarettes to help people calm down. Now they know they’re stimulants and can kill you over time.
There are more areas that I could cover, however, this has gotten quite long already. So, if you’re still struggling to make hypnosis work for you, then contact me. I’d love to help you create a happier and more satisfying life.
Don’t believe all the hype out there about who can be hypnotized and who cannot. It’s old information that has been proven wrong over and over again by me and other hypnotherapists.
Have patience, create a soothing place (soothng doesn’t have to mean absolutely quiet), be patient and be careful who you listen to.
You are your own best hypnotist.
Do you have any other tips that you can think of that I didn’t include here? What kinds of things have you changed in your life with hypnosis or NLP?